When it came to deciding on my bridal party, I knew that I only wanted a small bridal party including my sisters and maybe one or two other close friends.

I have two older sisters, and they have been my best friends since… well as long as I can remember even though growing up, I covered my love for them by secretly borrowing their clothes and never returning them. But how do I choose which one of my sisters will be my Maid/Matron of Honor? While sitting in a consultation with a couple about to get married, the Bride said she would have both of her sisters as her Maids of Honor, I realized a lot of Brides are having the same issue choosing between siblings. There are many ways to determine who will stand closest to you. With tradition out the window these days, how do I figure how to decide between my sisters?

Well, nine years earlier when my oldest sister (Carolyn) was getting married, my sister just older than me (Kathryn) was her Maid of Honor. Once Nick and I started to get serious, my sisters and I sat down and discussed my wedding. My sisters were ecstatic to hear that Nick and I had been talking about getting married. We figured out a plan where no one would get jealous and each of us will be able to be a Maid/Matron of Honor once. We will rotate, since Kathryn was Carolyn’s Maid of Honor nine years ago, Carolyn will be my Matron of Honor and I will be Kathryn’s.

Although, there are many ways to go about picking the Maid of Honor, my sisters and I decided that we are equally important to each other and no matter what, at the end of the day we are still sisters.

With my Maid of Honor (Carolyn) settled and one of my bridesmaids (Kathryn), I then had to decide who else would stand up next to me at my wedding. Do I go with someone that I went to school with, but once I moved to Las Vegas we don’t talk as much as we used to? Or do I choose someone who has been with me and Nick through every step of our relationship? I chose the latter. Jamie is someone I call my Las Vegas sister. She was there poppin’ bottles (literally) when Nick proposed at the Fountains of Bellagio. Since I wanted our wedding to be a reflection of mine and Nick’s relationship, I went with someone that knew every detail about our relationship. Literally, every detail!

I know that a lot of people choose their childhood friends, but I could not bring myself to choose between all of the girls I grew up with. I knew Nick and I wanted a smaller bridal party so I stuck with that and I think it will turn out great because the girls that know me the best inside and out are the ladies that are going to be standing up with me.

-Beth

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“I’m thinking of canceling my bridal shower. I don’t care anymore because my maid of honor isn’t doing anything!”

“I had to plan my own bachelorette party because nobody in my bridal party wanted to plan it.”

It’s important that bridesmaids be made aware that they actually have a role in this wedding. There is more to being a bridesmaid than putting on a pretty dress on the wedding day, standing by you during the ceremony, and being in all of the bridal party photos. This is a job!

Here are some tips to make your wedding planning a little bit easier by asking people to be in your bridal party with ease.

1.  When thinking of a bridesmaid ask yourself,  “Can they financially afford to be a bridesmaid?” There are a lot of costs that go into being a bridesmaid such as the bridesmaid dress, hair, makeup, bridal shower, bachelorette party, wedding gift, etc.

2. Great people to ask would be friends you have known for a long time or a family member that you are close with.

3. Make sure each person is reliable, responsible, and trustworthy.

4. You are allowed to have as little or as many bridesmaids as you want, but you don’t want half of your wedding guests standing up with you during the ceremony! The most common rule is 2-3 bridesmaids for a small wedding, 3-4 for a mid sized wedding, and 5 or more for a large wedding. Of course, this all depends on your religion, culture, and preference.

5. Do not ask someone just because you do not want to hurt their feelings. If they are a true friend or family member, they will understand if they are not asked. You can always incorporate them in other elements of the wedding.

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